I got chatting to a man about 5 days ago, I liked the way he came across and we got on well; however I was being open minded about what would happen and was happy with the idea I might meet him a friend (with benefits) or just a bit of fun, after my experience at the tail end of last year with the guy pining after his ex wife I needed to get out of the house and feel desired for a while.
I remained aloof with this man who very quickly went into the patter about missing me when I wasn’t online, really liking me and having a good feeling blah blah blah, girls, we have heard all that before haven’t we? I am wise to that but still kept open minded, I did get on well with him on the phone so thought it would be worth doing something I hadn’t done for years, I travelled to meet him. About 2 hours on the bus.
When he came round the corner I was a little disappointed, I often get told that my photos don’t do me justice but with this man it was the opposite, I have a suspicion that his photos on the dating site and FB were a little older that is probably appropriate or the camera is kind to him, not to say he is ugly just looks a little ‘older’ and he also had those cigarette stained teeth and bitten nails that I find hard to look past for too long. He did still have the nice smile and eyes that I liked originally, I had travelled too far to turn back.
After a little chat in the pub I warmed to him, he made me feel at ease, he was clean and he a gentleman, maybe as this is something he does regularly to knows which ‘buttons’ to press, anyway I realised he would scratch the itch I had or would actually end up treating me right so threw all caution to the wind and decided to stay at his.
I quickly realised he was one for pawing at me constantly which is fine but puts him in the ‘fun only’ category, so we had fun but he was still playing the ‘I really like you card’ wanting to see me again and trying to keep up and act he really didn’t need to with me due to my open mind. I left his as soon as I could Sat morning as felt a bit rough and I am still struggling with being with someone for a long period of time.
He kept up the act until I was on the bus and I had some thinking to do, what do I really want? am I completely emotionally dead? but I also was intrigued to see if it really was an act. Before we met he said he thought he would come off the dating site as soon as he met me as he really liked me, so I logged on, there he was online, which is fine and isn’t really conclusive. He had asked me to keep him updated on my journey home but was quiet and not so keen to impress which is as I expected.
He then said he was off to his sisters for lunch, so I left it at that but noticed him on FB and he added some blond woman who looked a bit like mutton dressed as lamb, you know the older women who pile make up on to look younger and wear tacky clothes that you can see straight past. I assume she is off the dating site and he already planning his next move, fine with me as I had by this point decided I wouldn’t see him again but may be friends with him; however lying to my face removes the chance of even being friends.
I’m not hurt as I had my suspicions that this is exactly what would happen and that he was just putting on an act, being cynical has its uses sometimes and I think maybe he picked up the feeling that I knew it was an act too. This does prove a point though, most men out there really do claim to be something they are not and enjoy trying to put an act on even when they don’t have to, I’d be interested to know why if any men reading this want to give me their side?